How a Single Book Changed my Life (or Will)

I’m an avid reader of books. I read science fiction books. I read whatever Amazon’s website suggest I read. I read free books. I read paid books. I read soft skills related books (self-improvement, management, etc). One of the latest books I read was The Flinch by Julien Smith. I came across it in Seth Godin’s The Domino Project. It is a free book there, but I would have happily paid for it.

I’ve read similar books before: those that tell you to do what you want to do, go with your passion. This one is a bit different. It sticks. I’ve finished it about a month ago and I still can’t let it go. It starts innocently enough. Talks about the need to act. The flinch that holds us back. Gives a few homework tasks: I’ve nailed the first two rather easily – just take a shower in cold water and go break a cup. Mind you – I usually skip assignments that I find in books – it feels rather silly to me – like clapping your hands in a folk dancing routine (I don’t do that when I go folk dancing). But this book somehow compelled me to do things. My problem started with the third assignment in the book. It’s rather simple really – strike a conversation with the next person you meet. Bam. I am stuck. Been trying to do it for the past month with no real luck. What can I say? I am an introvert. Why I am writing this here? Because I have taken this as something I need to crack for myself. To be able to get past my flinch when talking to people. And I will. One day. My only suggestion here is for you to go and read this book. It’s free – and it is just a click away.
Tsahi Levent-Levi

Tsahi Levent-Levi

Independent WebRTC analyst. I help companies ship real-time communications they can actually monitor. 20+ years in the comms space, last 13 focused on WebRTC.

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  • OriFeb 2, 2012

    I have the same trouble myself, accessing people just to talk to. Keith Ferrazzi "Never eat alone" book will give you all the advise how to do it.

  • OriFeb 2, 2012

    I have the same trouble myself, accessing people just to talk to. Keith Ferrazzi "Never eat alone" book will give you all the advise how to do it.

  • Tsahi Levent-LeviTsahiFeb 2, 2012

    Ori,

    Thanks for the recommendation - added it to my Amazon wish list. As I have about 50 more books to read on my Kindle, I am trying to refrain from buying additional ones as much as I can :-)

    • OriFeb 7, 2012

      As though time is limited and these books have a lot of insight to teach us I really recommend to "read" them by listening to audiobooks.

      I am on average 1 hour on the road each day (~30 minutes each way). Plus the time I have in the supermarket, jogging etc it leads to ~9 hours a week.

      I managed to finish 12 books this way on 2011 and plan to enhance the number in 2012.

      I have a bunch of them, and would be happy to share.

  • Tsahi Levent-LeviTsahiFeb 2, 2012

    Ori,

    Thanks for the recommendation - added it to my Amazon wish list. As I have about 50 more books to read on my Kindle, I am trying to refrain from buying additional ones as much as I can :-)